There are a few things I commonly hear from other women that consistently drive me crazy. These are the top three:
1) Bashing women who wear make up to the gym.
I’ve seen women on social media actually saying that women who wear make-up while working out should be beaten to death. To which I say, what?
Why on earth do you care when and where other women wear make-up? Does it affect you somehow? I’m not sure where that kind of anger comes from, but I’m betting if you do that it’s because you’re one of those people who constantly compares your looks to those around you. Heads up, there will always be people both prettier than you and uglier than you in a room. Get over it and stop hating people for it.
If women wear full make-up to the gym, I’m guessing they’re insecure with the way they look without it. Or maybe they just forgot to wash it off. It’s really none of my business and doesn’t affect my exercise in any way, so I don’t really care. I don’t understand why you do.
2) Saying they only have guy friends because, “girls are too catty.”
Every time I hear a woman say this I automatically assume they’re the one who’s catty. Yes, women can be melodramatic and mean. So can men. Men can be lying, manipulative jerks. So can women. But giving a single personality trait to an entire, multi-billion population of people is called prejudice, and usually people who think that way are ignorant or sociopathic.
I think when most women say this they’re looking to convey how laid back and cool they are. Maybe they think if they call other people catty then they seem less catty. If you do this, know it doesn’t make you look that way. If you can’t get along with a single other female that is a red flag to everyone around you.
3) Expecting men to pay for things
If you’re a woman, imagine this for a second. You’re on a first date with a guy that hasn’t been going great. There have been awkward pauses all dinner long and at one point he went on a 10-minute rant about the annoyances of living with his mother. The check comes and he makes no move to pay for it. It just sits there.
After 15 minutes of this, filled with more awkward silence, you suggest splitting it. He seems surprised and insulted, but reluctantly agrees. Later on, through a mutual friend, you hear he’s been telling everyone what a horrible date it was, topped off by the fact you didn’t even offer to pay for dinner.
I tell women to imagine that, because I bet most men have experienced it at one point or another, except they might even knuckle under and just pay for the whole thing anyway. For some reason when a woman suggests splitting the check she’s being polite and an awesome date, but if a man does it he’s rude and a horrible one. Wouldn’t you hate it if every time you went out with a guy, whether you ended up feeling attracted to him or not, you were expected to drop $20 on him, if not more?
A guy (or girl) who offers to pay and refuses to let you split is being generous. You shouldn’t expect that generosity anymore than you’d expect a stranger on the street to randomly hand you a fiver.